Pros & cons for having another child

Another advantage of raising two babies at once is that it can unify the family. "The early hardship of caring for two young children can help draw fathers into the action," according to Sybil Hart, Ph.D., author of Preventing Sibling Rivalry. Don’t stress yourself to much about psychological impact that bring of age difference. Big and small sibling’s gaps have their own benefits and challenges. The tasks are so demanding that even the most alienated and reluctant father would have to step in, here are some pros and cons to consider for planning another child.

                                                                                                                                                           

1. Classic Combo you will face a tougher transition for your big kid, because of some rivalry, jealousy, regression and defiance. Balancing with your firstborn activities for your baby’s needs can be tough. (what to do when big kid wants to go to the playground, but the baby needs to nurse? Or when preschool pickup conflicts with little brother's nap?). Mother’s body has time to recover from one pregnancy to the next. Yes, you get to enjoy each child's babyhood individually. And practically speaking, you can probably get away with only one crib.

2. Make extra time for you little one. After the baby is born, your time will be divided between both children, so while you have the time, spend it them wisely. It is also a good time for both parents to have some alone time with your child. Take some special trips, and do some of your child's favorite activities.

3. Back to back babies Caring a baby or toddler while pregnant are physically draining. Its not easy once your newborn arrives and you need to feed, clean and rock and diaper. Two under two may not get you a good night’s rest for a few years straight. Especially if you are getting breastfeed. Your body is on permanent loan and your two tiny tots so you may feel as though.  (And if you’re wondering if you’ll ever get it back.) If your first was born by C-section less than 24 months before your second arrives, it may be difficult (or dangerous) for you to deliver vaginally.  So probably you’ll need to invest in some extra baby gear like a crib or a double stroller (double-whammy does have its benefits) and less jealousy for your firstborn, and the chance to overlap your diapering, carrying, bathing, and spoon-feeding.